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99% of the shots we miss, are the ones we never take. Sometimes the risk is worth it.

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Our Shadows Are Just Representations of Our Bodies…That’s Why They Follow Us Wherever We Go:
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It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt

This is why auto-correct temporarily ruins people lives. Enjoy :)

1.Stranger=Danger
2.The 3 second rule really does work (the 30 second rule is only acceptable inside your own bedroom).
3.Chocolate is the remedy to all emotional turmoil.
4.Miley Cyrus is not Hannah Montana in real life.
5.Ian Fleming’s character James Bond, was named after an ornithologist.
6.Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
7.If you want a temporary tattoo use permanent marker.
8.Elevator rides with complete strangers are always awkward.
9.When you’re trying to read someone’s shirt but they keep moving…
10.Never start an argument with a girl because they all have 450201845 GB memories, and will bring up something you did at 14:23PM (pacific time) on 7/8/2005.
11.When you spell Wednesday, you have to say it out loud as “Wed-nes-day” that way, you won’t miss the silent ‘n’.
12.That moment when you lie in bed at night replaying that conversation you had with your crush, and you mentally beat yourself up because all you managed to say was, “Hi.”
13.This generation doesn’t ring the doorbell…we text or call to say we’re outside.
14.Wondering if your mom will let you make pancakes even though its 11:00 pm.
15.Interrupt my sleeping and I’ll interrupt your breathing.
16.No matter how old it gets, “This Is How We Do It” will always be a party favorite.
17.There is always that one person on every social media site that works hard at being the unofficial Grammar Nazi.
18.That irritating moment when you have milk in the fridge, but no cereal in the pantry.
19.When someone tells me,” Go get a job” I be like, (clears throat because I’m ‘bout to go HAM) “Uhm…I’m a full-time stay at home blogger, so excuse yo’self.”
20.Shout out to all those kids who parents won’t let them eat inside their rooms #thestruggleisreal. Let’s bow our heads in a moment of silence.


The year is 2014. Our world and society has shifted from tangible substances into an invisible realm known as the Internet. As an author, the question that probably plagues you constantly when determining how and in what format to sell your book is, “Should I make my book available in e-book format or should I go the traditional paperback route?”

Which format will make you the most money?

Well, let’s consider the facts.

Even in today’s technological world, book stores still exist. This means that to a certain extent, getting you book published through the medium of a tangible book can make you a decent profit. There still exist a nice hunk of people like me, who are book fanatics and actually prefer tangible books over e-books. Having your book published in the traditional paper and ink format opens an extra income stream for you, because it allows you to market to customers who prefer actually books over e-readers.

I am the proud owner of two e-readers, a Kindle and a Nook and both devices works wonders. With the development of e-readers, people are now able to haul around several books without adding extra weight to their bags and purses. And considering the fact that just about everyone has a smart phone these days with the Kindle app and e-reading capability, it is safe to say that publishing your book(s) electronically, will definitely make you money.

E-books sale more than paperback books because it is so much easier to click the download button, instead of going to bookstores to buy them. Even if someone orders a book online, they still have to wait a day to receive their package in the mail. E-readers and e-books, eliminates the wait.

So which method will make you the most money? Publishing your work as an e-reader.

Can you also publish in paperback form and still make money? Yes you can, but your biggest profit will come from publishing your work as an e-reader.

So for all those indie-authors out there that are trying to make a name for themselves in the writing and literary community, this post was for you.

I hope that it was helpful. Be sure to like, comment and share this post.

Thanks for reading, and happy writing-Lasheda

Phenomenal Woman
BY MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.


The issue regarding sexism here in America is a relentless battle without an end. The argument that the female anatomy and mind is of lesser value than that of men, have sparked numerous women rights crusades intended to herald in the triumph of women in America (and other countries). Those crusades have progressed to what many today know to be Women Rights.

The rights that women in America have fought for are, but not limited to:

1. the right to vote

2. property rights

3. birth control and reproductive rights

4. and equality within the work place.

Feminist, have emphasized that a part from women being female, every woman living on this planet is first and foremost a human being. And as a human being, certain rights belong to them without those rights having to be made into laws, or without women having to ask for permission to exercise those rights. With that being said, the idea of women being treated as lesser than men have left many women feeling vulnerable, unloved, and used. Marches, protest, petitions, and demonstrations have served as mediums for the women of this world, to tell men and society alike to “Stick it, we don’t need you or any law telling us what we can and can not do.”

Yes All Women
The hastag #yesallwomen have been circulating around Twitter and Facebook in an effort to further the cause and to shed light on the realities women living in this day and age experience.

About two months ago, I ran across a quote of a 13 year-old student, attending Haven Middle School, in Illinois. Her school had banned female students from wearing yoga pants and leggings, because it served as a distraction to male students.

Sophie Hasty of Haven Middle School is quote as saying,”Not being able to wear leggings because it’s ‘too distracting for boys’ is giving us [girls] the impression we should be guilty for what guys do.”

The truthfulness of that statement is irrefutable. Why should any female be held accountable for the actions of any male? In some instances, that is the same principle that rapists use to justify their actions. Some men have limited the existence of women to nothing more than maids and slaves, created to fulfill their every desire and grant their every wish. And unfortunately, some women have succumb to that credo and live by those standards in order to obtain and maintain a boyfriend or husband.

This is not to generalize all men. Some men do see women as the intelligent creatures we are, unique in our genetic makeup and ways. They recognize that women have played an important and major role in their lives, and that societal advancements have been pushed forward because of the many strong-willed women who would not back down and just ‘take it’. Yes, the power that women have over men, in society, and within themselves, is something men do not have, nor can posses. The power of a woman belongs solely to a woman because it is a part of her. The way a woman directs and yield her power in order to create and produce is second to none, and can not be copied by a man.

In most cases, men are physically stronger than women. It use to be that a man’s power was measured by how much he could lift and how big his muscles were. The bigger his muscles were, the more power he had. As women began to loosen the bonds society placed on them because they were considered to be the ‘lesser ones’, the meaning of power shifted.

A woman’s strength is built through the emotionally charged experiences of her life, therein, binding the “DNA” of her power.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie made a profound statement regarding what true power is:

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man.”

Yes, true power is in the idea of something, not being able to lift something. Men have come to realize that ideas is what move countries forward. Ideas are the building blocks of a successful business, and ideas are what formulate government and structure. Being able to think is what creates ideas, and having ideas gives you power.

Yes, all women are phenomenal.

Remember, there is no such thing as thinking too much. Thinking is such a luxury nowadays…

The possibility of a woman being sentenced to death because of the man she married, seems a little bit far-fetched in this day and age. To a huge extent, I thought that we as a worldwide society, had moved forward and away from the traditional realms of marriage held so tightly in place in years past.

There were those who only 50 years ago preached anti-miscegenation so as to not destroy the purity of a race’s bloodline, so much so that in the Southern parts of the United States, interracial marriage, especially between a Black person and a White person, was illegal. In some parts of the world, that ideology still holds weight.

In 2014, that ideology has continued to run rampant in certain parts of the world as it relates to not only race, but also religion. The story of Meriam Yehya Ibrahim Ishag, a native of the African country Sudan, has been sentenced to 100 lashes and death by the Islamic courts, because she chose to marry a Christian man…

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When was the last time you checked your version of reality to see if what you perceived to be, is actually there?

It’s kinda like random gravity checks…

No, I didn’t trip, I was just checking to see if gravity still worked.

That sort of gravity check.

And it is the same with reality checks. Reality checks can also be called those “salty moments”.

For those that are unaware, the urban definition of the word salty is as follows:

A word that means you just got played or are looking stupid, either because of something you did or something that was done to you. It can also refer to an instance when you are certain that you are correct about something, but come to find out you’re wrong.

We have to have reality checks from time to time to ensure that we are not living a delusional and “fake” version of our lives.

Sometimes, it’s irritating, but usually it’s necessary.